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Warriors For His Glory

Date Night Discipleship: Growing Spiritually as a Couple

Because spiritual intimacy is better than Netflix… most days.


You know the drill: You tell your wife, “Yeah, we should do more date nights.” And then three months later the date night has consisted of:

  • Sitting on opposite ends of the couch

  • Scrolling separate universes on your phones

  • Eating leftovers over the sink

  • And falling asleep to the same episode of The Office you’ve both seen 42 times.


It’s not that you don’t love your wife. It’s that life is loud with kids, jobs, stress, laundry, the car making that sound again, and the mysterious way the fridge is always empty 24 hours after grocery shopping.


But here’s the truth: If you don’t invest in your marriage on purpose, it will drift on accident.


Dating Your Wife Is Not Optional...It’s Biblical

Before God ever created the Church, before He formed nations, before He launched the Great Commission…He created marriage. Genesis 2:24, “A man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two shall become one.”


Marriage is a spiritual covenant, not a contract. So strengthening your marriage isn’t sentimental, it’s Kingdom work.


Why “Spiritual Growth Together” Feels Awkward for Men

Let’s be real, praying with your wife can feel more intimidating than leading a board meeting. Men think:

  • What if I pray wrong?

  • What if she cries? (She will.)

  • What if I cry? (You might.)

  • What if the kids interrupt? (They definitely will.)


But spiritual intimacy isn’t about fancy words — it’s about presence and intentionality. Your wife doesn’t want a preacher, she wants a partner in the pursuit of God.


Date Night Discipleship: What It Looks Like

It’s not:

  • A Bible lecture from you

  • A 30-minute Greek word breakdown

  • You “teaching” her like she’s in a classroom

It is:

  • Talking about what God is doing in your lives

  • Asking real questions

  • Praying together

  • Choosing to grow side-by-side

It’s not complicated — just intentional.


5 Simple (and Actually Fun) Date Night Discipleship Ideas

Dinner + 3 Questions

Ask each other:

  1. What has God been teaching you lately?

  2. What’s been hard for you this week?

  3. How can I pray for you?

Yes, there may be tears. Yes, the waiter will awkwardly walk up right at that moment. It’s okay.


2. “Walk and Talk” Prayer Date

Go for a walk.Hold hands.Pray out loud for your marriage for 60 seconds. SIXTY.

Your marriage will feel different immediately.


3. Read One Chapter Together

Not a book. Not a commentary. Not preparing a sermon. Just read one chapter from:

  • Proverbs

  • Psalms

  • John

  • or Ephesians

Talk about one thing that stood out. Done.


4. Worship Night at Home

Yes, the kids will think it’s weird. Yes, the dog will stare. Yes, your wife will sing off-key (or more likely, you will). But the presence of God in your home is greater than any playlist you can stream.


5. Serve Someone Together

Cook a meal for someone. Write an encouragement card. Go visit someone who’s hurting. Unity grows through mission.


Gentle Warning: Date Nights Require Effort

Brothers, we plan:

  • Fantasy football drafts

  • Hunting trips

  • Garage organization projects that never end

  • And everything else we care about


You plan what you prioritize. If your wife only gets your leftovers, you are starving your marriage. Ephesians 5:25 — “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”


Christ didn’t love from a distance, He loved up close. And For the Men Who Say: “We don’t need date night. We’re fine.” My brother in Christ…Your marriage is not supposed to be “fine.” It’s supposed to be flourishing. Alive. Growing. Sacred. Beautiful. Fruitful.

If your marriage feels like:

  • Roommates

  • Co-managers of the kids

  • Or two ships passing between soccer practice and bedtime routines…It’s time to fight back.


Final Encouragement

You don’t have to lead perfectly. You just have to lead faithfully. Your wife doesn’t need a smooth-talking spiritual guru.She needs a man who:

  • Shows up

  • Reaches for her hand

  • And says, “Let’s seek God together.”


Because spiritual intimacy is the foundation for every other kind of intimacy. And yes, that includes the kind you're hoping for later. 😉


✅ Call to Action for This Week

Plan one date night.Even a simple one.Then ask her: “How can I love you better this week?”


And watch what God does!

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