Raising Kingdom Sons and Daughters in a Confused Culture

Teaching our kids to walk in truth when the world can’t even decide what truth is.

The Reality We’re Raising Kids In

Let’s be honest, brothers, parenting today feels like trying to explain Wi-Fi to your grandfather. Everything is confusing, fast-changing, and half the time you’re not even sure if you're doing it right. We live in a culture where:

• Right and wrong are treated like “personal preferences.”

• Identity is something you “pick.”

• Truth is whatever someone feels at 3:47 PM on a Tuesday.

Meanwhile, your 8-year-old comes home asking questions like: “Dad, my teacher said I can choose my truth… so can my truth be that homework is optional?” And you stand there, blinking, trying to figure out if Jesus had a parable for this one.

But let’s be clear: Your home is not called to mirror culture, your home is called to shape warriors.

God Didn’t Give You Kids by Accident

Your children were not shipped here accidentally like an Amazon package to the wrong address. God intentionally gave them to you. Psalm 127:3 — “Children are a heritage from the Lord.” You’re not just a dad. You are:

• A warrior trainer

• A discipler

• A culture challenger

• A demon-fighting gatekeeper of your home

Your home is a Kingdom outpost and you are the commanding officer.

What Culture Says vs. What God Says

Culture Says	God Says
“Follow your heart.”	“The heart is deceitful.” (Jeremiah 17:9)
“Truth is relative.”	“Your Word is truth.” (John 17:17)
“Be whatever you feel like today.”	“I formed you with purpose.” (Psalm 139:13-16)

So we are not raising children to blend in, we are raising children to stand out.

But Here’s the Challenge for Men

We can teach with our words all day…But our kids learn from our example.

If we tell our kids: “Put God first,” but our Bible is dusty and the only time they see us pray is at Thanksgiving dinner? They learn that faith is optional.

If we say: “Respect your mom,” but we respond to her with sarcasm, irritation, or tone? They learn disrespect is acceptable. Kids don’t need perfect dads. They need present, consistent, humble, repentant dads who keep pointing them back to Jesus.

Practical Ways to Raise Kingdom Kids in a Confused World

1. Teach Identity Early

Instead of waiting for culture to tell them who they are… Speak this over your kids regularly: “You belong to God.You are loved.You are chosen.You are created on purpose, for a purpose.” Identity is not something discovered.It’s something declared by God.

2. Be the Spiritual Example (Not the Announcer)

Your kids don’t need you to be a preacher. They need you to be a participant. The simple stuff matters:

• Pray with them before school

• Read ONE verse with them at night

• Worship in the car

• Let them see you seek God when you're stressed — not just ESPN

  
  

3. Make Your Home a Safe Place for Questions

If your kid is scared to ask you questions,they will go ask someone who shouldn’t be answering them. When your child comes home and says: “Dad, they told us there are many genders,” don't panic. Don't break into a 47-minute sermon on Genesis.

Say: “Interesting. Let’s talk about what God says.” Keep the tone:

• Calm

• Clear

• Confident

Truth + peace = strength.

4. Discipline With Love, Not Anger

Your job is not to create kids who are scared of you.Your job is to create kids who trust you. Correction isn’t:

• Loud

• Aggressive

• Emotional unloading

Correction is: “I love you too much to let you walk the wrong direction.”

Funny Reality Check Moments Every Dad Knows

• You will step on Legos at 3 AM and question your salvation.

• You will say things your father said that you SWORE you would never say.

• Sometimes “leading devotions” just means asking,“So… what did you learn today?”… and then pretending you know what they’re talking about.

And that’s okay. God isn’t asking you to be flawless.He’s asking you to be faithful.

The Blessing of Raising Kingdom Kids

When they know who they are in Christ…When they trust God’s Word as truth…When they see humility modeled, not preached…They don’t just survive culture…They influence it.

They walk with clarity when others are confused. They walk with purpose when others feel lost. They stand firm when others collapse. That’s the goal. Not perfect kids. Kingdom kids.

Final Charge, Brother

You have what it takes because God placed you here. Your kids don’t need another influencer…They need a father who walks with God.

So keep going.Keep showing up. Keep leading gently. Keep praying boldly. Keep laughing often. Keep pointing them back to Jesus. Your legacy starts in your living room.

✊ Call to Action

This week, do just one simple Kingdom-building action:

• Pray with your kids before bed

• Read one Psalm together

• Speak identity over them

• Hug them longer than usual

• Tell them, “I’m proud of you.”

Small things build big warriors.